Quotes
The Dalai Lama, when asked what surprised him most about humanity, answered "Man. Because he sacrifices his health in order to make money. Then he sacrifices money to recuperate his health. And then he is so anxious about the future that he does not enjoy the present; the result being that he does not live in the present or the future; he lives as if he is never going to die, and then dies having never really lived."
Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.
Steve Jobs 
You may not want to give up the emptiness that gave you everything. Bono
A century from now it will not matter what kind of car I drove, what kind of house I lived in, how much money I had in the bank…But one hundred years from now the world may be a better place, because I was important in the life of a child.
Forest E. Witcraft  
The West has succumbed to giving the left brain the importance. We struggle to be in our right brains. Texting inhibits the right brain. Conflict with texting is really bad. We need to see the person's face and hear their voice. The more we communicate in non-embodied ways, the less resilient we become. It’s harder to have difficult conversations, we just rely on our phone to make people go away.
Curt Thompson.
We are all dealing with the collective loss of the world we knew. The world we knew is now gone forever. We talk about 911. Do you remember what the airports were like before 911? We are going to talk about how the world was before the pandemic. I don’t know how this is going to change, but it will. We are going to find meaning. We are going to come out the other side of this. We are going to say things like, ‘do you remember in the old days when we used to shake hands? How crazy was that? Whatever it is. This world that we have all been accustomed to is now gone. So many people are feeling heaviness…We didn’t know what the loss was until it was gone. We have to feel the feelings and feel the grief.
David Kessler
There are shatterings, betrayals, having been orphaned, that bring you into relationship with this person. You don’t choose your spouse; your story chooses your spouse. You don’t make a cognitive, thoughtful, reflective decision. It’s a reaction to stories of brokenness that most people don’t know. Dan Allender.
An important axiom of psychotherapy that I have learned (and forgotten) so many times from so many patients: the most valuable thing I have to offer is my sheer presence. Just be with her, I thought. Stop trying to think of something wise and clever to say. Let go of the search for some dynamic interpretation that will make all the difference. Your job is simply to offer her your full presence. Trust her to find the things she needs from the session.
Irvin Yalom.
It is no measure of health to be well-adjusted to a sick society. Jiddu Krishnamurti.
I know what it’s like to feel unequal to the task required of you, feel incapable. I’ll never be the man I was, but I’ve come to embrace those parts of my mind that are peculiar, broken. I understand now that’s what makes my mind special. I wish you could see yourself the way I see you. You have no idea how extraordinary you are. If you can embrace that there is no end to what you can do.
Walter Bishop, Fringe
Relationships, like all human experiences, are transient; they change every day and are meant to be enjoyed in the present. When I hear people say you need to "work" at a relationship, what that often really means is just seeing through the day-to-day; listening to another person, listening to yourself, not getting stuck on hurts from the past, and not getting lost in what might come. To be in a relationship with someone you respect, care about and value is a gift, and when you take that in the day-to-day, you honor yourself and your partner each day. Eating is no different in that you can honor yourself at each meal. So much time in relationships is spent hashing the past, and arguing about things that haven't yet happened. A relationship cannot be "hoarded", just like a meal cannot be prolonged by taking home the leftovers.
Ramani Durvasula
When I was young and free and my imagination had no limits, I dreamed of changing the world. As I grew older and wiser, I discovered the world would not change, so I shortened my sights somewhat and decided to change only my country. But it, too, seemed immovable. As I grew into my twilight years, in one last desperate attempt, I settled for changing only my family, those closest to me, but alas, they would have none of it. And now as I lie on my deathbed, I suddenly realize: If I had only changed myself first, then by example I would have changed my family. From their inspiration and encouragement, I would then have been able to better my country and, who knows, I may have even changed the world.
Unknown
I am all the days, that you choose to ignore.
Thom Yorke
The search for truth is not about letting go; it’s about going deeper. The goal is not reaching a single realization but living the process of realizing again and again. Jewish wisdom encourages us to be sacred skeptics. Many think skepticism is paralyzing, hopeless, cynical; but it’s the opposite. Skepticism inspires us to know more. It can be revelatory. When we both hold and question our truths, we become lifelong learners rather than absolute knowers - as well as more interesting and much easier people to be with. Not seduced by certainty, we can be open to the truth.
Irwin Kula - Yearnings.
The meaning of life is just to be alive. It is so plain and so obvious and so simple. And yet, everybody rushes around in a great panic as if it were necessary to achieve something beyond themselves.
This is the real secret of life -- to be completely engaged with what you are doing in the here and now. And instead of calling it work, realize it is play. Alan Watts
Most people want to grow, but the price of growth is pain.
Dan Allender
Here's the thing about life, you get back what you put into it. Life is defined by what we choose to do with it, the things we commit to, and where we dedicate our time.
Jefferson Fisher
All violence is the result of people tricking themselves into believing that their pain derives from other people and that consequently those people deserve to be punished.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
The crisis in mature masculinity is very much upon us. Lacking adequate models of mature men, and lacking the societal cohesion and institutional structures for actualizing ritual process, it's every man for himself. And most of us fall by the wayside, with no idea what it was that was the goal of our gender-drive or what went wrong in our strivings. We seek the generative, affirming and empowering father (though most of us don't know it), the father who, for most of us, never existed in our actual lives.
Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette.
The difference between listening and pretending to listen, I discovered, is enormous. One is fluid, the other is rigid. One is alive, the other is stuffed. Eventually, I found a radical way of thinking about listening. Real listening is a willingness to let the other person change you. When I'm willing to let them change me, something happens between us that's more interesting than a pair of dueling monologues. Like so much of what I learned in the theater, this turned out to be how life works, too. Alan Alda
…it is in the revelation of our weaknesses, in the display of our fragilities, in the confession of our wilder fantasies that we grow interesting and likeable. It is almost impossible to be bored when a person tells you sincerely what they have failed at or who has humiliated them, what they long for and when they have been at their craziest…We get scared of opening our souls because we falsely exaggerate the difference between ourselves and others.
Alain de Botton.
It’s not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the person who is in the arena; whose face is marred with dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly. Theodore Roosevelt.
Be Who You Are and Say What You Feel Because Those Who Mind Don't Matter and Those Who Matter Don't Mind.
Dr. Seuss 
And so I began, slowly to think about staying in suffering instead of always trying to climb out of it. When the hope for new remedies is daily dangled before our eyes - to acknowledge pain, to sit still in its mysterious presence and feel helpless. What sets me apart is simply a learned ability to manage the blades of deep pain with a little bit of dexterity.
Mental health doesn't mean making the pains go away. I don't believe they ever go away. I have not healed so much as learned to sit still and wait while pain does its dancing work, trying not to panic or twist in ways that make the blades tear deeper, finally infecting the wounds. How we handle pain and suffering has a direct correlation to the depth of our relationships.
Ann Wilson - Betrayed & Betrayer
I think we ripple on into others, just like a stone puts its ripples into a brook. That, for me, too, is a source of comfort. It kind of, in a sense, negates the sense of total oblivion. Some piece of ourselves, not necessarily our consciousness, but some piece of ourselves gets passed on and on and on.
Irvin Yalom
Becoming a stand-up comedian is becoming yourself.
Jerry Seinfeld
You could never convince a monkey to give you a banana by promising him limitless bananas after death in monkey heaven.
Yuval Noah Harari
A lot of people are so used to just seeing the outcome of work. They never see the side of the work you go through to produce the outcome. Michael Jackson.
Everyone said to Vincent van Gogh, "You can't be a great painter, you only have one ear." And you know what he said? "I can't hear you."
Steve Carell
There is a candle in your heart, ready to be kindled. There is a void in your soul, ready to be filled. You feel it, don’t you?
Rumi
It seems that the most fearful people in our country are those who don't travel and are metaphorically barricaded in America. If we all stayed home and built more walls and fewer bridges between us and the rest of the world, eventually we would have something to actually be fearful of.
Rick Steves
The healing happens the day you recognize that this isn’t about justice or fairness; it’s about self-preservation and peace.
Ramani Durvasula
Self-awareness is a supreme gift, a treasure as precious as life. This is what makes us human. But it comes with a costly price: the wound of mortality. Our existence is forever shadowed by the knowledge that we will grow, blossom, and, inevitably, diminish and die.
Irvin D. Yalom
I travel around the world in a way that tries to open my mind and give me empathy and inspire me to come home and make this world a better place.
Rick Steves
When we stand up and confront ourselves in ways our parents have not, a desire for justice makes it harder to forgive them in some ways. However, the increased differentiation this endeavor provides allows one to better self-soothe, to validate one’s own experience, thereby unhooking the need for confession from one’s parent. At this point, forgiveness becomes an act of self-caring and a deliberate decision to get on with one’s life.
David Scharch
It won’t go perfectly, it can’t. This job is too much for one person. I listened to those who came before me, and I counted on those under me. They are generals, they know how to mobilize. What they need is a leader. If I did my job well, it’s not because people listened to me, it’s because they believed in me. I believed that I knew them well enough to use their brilliance. I’m talking about people like you. That kind of belief, you have to earn it. You can’t earn it in a day. You want someone to run a 4-minute-mile, you don’t chase them. You don’t give them something to run from, you give them something to run to.  
Dr. Webber  to Dr. Bailey on her first day as chief – Grey’s Anatomy.
Life as a therapist is a life of service in which we daily transcend our personal wishes and turn our gaze toward the needs and growth of the other. We take pleasure not only in the growth of our patient but also in the ripple effect—the salutary influence our patients have upon those whom they touch in life.
Irvin D. Yalom
If we want to be courageous and we want to be in the arena, we’re going to get our butts kicked. There is no option. If you want to be brave and show up in your life, you’re going to fail. You’re going to stumble. You’re going to fall. It’s part of showing up. If you are not in the arena also getting your butt kicked, I’m not interested in your feedback. Vulnerability is not about winning, it’s not about losing — it’s about having the courage to show up and be seen. It’s about a willingness to say, ‘Look, I don’t have all the answers.’ Brene Brown
There are studies that identify shame as the dominant emotion experienced by mental health clients, exceeding anger, fear, grief, and anxiety. So, if the mental and public health communities aren't talking about shame or providing enough safe spaces for people to get help with shame issues, how do we ever begin to talk about it?  
If you put shame in a petri dish and cover it with judgment, silence and secrecy, it grows out of control until it consumes everything in sight - you have basically provided shame with the environment it needs to thrive.
Brene Brown
The challenge is we all want to be with someone who makes us happy, when what we need to do is be someone who makes us happy.
Jay Shetty
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Stay teachable - do I enter relationship willing to lean.
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Be communal - with people, nature, with your heart [don’t even think about doing it alone]
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Understand your limitations and capacity.
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Find ways to be intensely alive.
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Don’t take yourself so seriously - it lightens the load for others around you too.
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Be human - embrace the messy and humanness of others.
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Go outside and feel the sunshine on your face.
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Play and play and play your heart out.
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Live with awe and wonder - most of us suffer from wonder deficit disorder.
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If it doesn’t work, take a 6-year-old and be with them in their day.
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Take only what you need (resources, space, time). Weep and lament - are your tears a gift? Go bear-foot in the mud, moss, swamps.
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Imagine and create - what’s happened to your imagination since you were young?
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What are your limits in creating something?
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Grief and loss - many of us do not grieve much regarding endings; we don’t know what to do with that.
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Celebrate - don’t wait for the occasion.
Steve Call
Because the symptoms and emotions associated with trauma can be extreme, most of us (and those close to us) will recoil and attempt to repress these intense reactions. Unfortunately, this mutual denial can prevent us from healing. In our culture there is a lack of tolerance for the emotional vulnerability that traumatized people experience. Little time is allotted for the working through of emotional events. We are routinely pressured into adjusting too quickly in the aftermath of an overwhelming situation. Denial is so common in our culture that it has become a cliché.
Peter Levine
If I appeal to you for emotional connection and you respond intellectually to a problem, rather than directly to me, on an attachment level I will experience that as “no response.” This is one of the reasons that the research on social support uniformly states that people want “indirect” support, that is, emotional confirmation and caring from their partners, rather than advice.
Sue Johnson
I want to be alone - and I want people to notice me, both at the same time.
Thom Yorke
What am I in the eyes of most people — a nonentity, an eccentric, or an unpleasant person — somebody who has no position in society and will never have; in short, the lowest of the low. All right, then — even if that were absolutely true, then I should one day like to show by my work what such an eccentric, such a nobody, has in his heart. That is my ambition, based less on resentment than on love in spite of everything, based more on a feeling of serenity than on passion. Though I am often in the depths of misery, there is still calmness, pure harmony and music inside me. I see paintings or drawings in the poorest cottages, in the dirtiest corners. And my mind is driven towards these things with an irresistible momentum.
Van Gogh
For "full" emotional communication, one person needs to allow his state of mind to be influenced by that of the other.
Daniel J. Siegel
A solid sense of self develops from confronting yourself, challenging yourself to do what’s right, and earning your own self-respect.
David Schnarch
Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.
Robin Williams
A great fire burns within me, but no one stops to warm themselves at it, and passers-by only see a wisp of smoke.
Van Gogh
I have spent many days stringing and unstringing my instrument while the song I came to sing remains unsung.
Rabindranath Tagore
If you bring forth that which is within you, Then that which is within you Will be your salvation. If you do not bring forth that which is within you, Then that which is within you Will destroy you.
Gnostic Gospels
We seek connection, predictability, and dependability to root us firmly in place. But we also have a need for change, for the unexpected, for transcendence. The Greeks understood this, which is why they worshiped both Apollo (representative of the rational and self-disciplined) and Dionysus (representative of the spontaneous, sensuous, and emotional).
Esther Perel
When the bird and the book disagree, believe the bird.
John James Audubon.
Confidence doesn’t mean you’re not afraid. It means you do it scared. Confidence doesn’t mean you’re always right. It means you tell them when you’re wrong. Confidence doesn’t mean you avoid mistakes. It means you embrace them.
Jefferson Fisher
We need to do things regulary and rhythmically that put us in the path of beauty. It's intentional. Rhythm is needed to form resilience.
Curt Thompson
The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk. Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters. Solve problems. make art, think deeply.
Susan Cain
Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy. Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.
Esther Perel
Give up defining yourself - to yourself or to others. You won't die. You will come to life. And don't be concerned with how others define you. When they define you, they are limiting themselves, so it's their problem. Whenever you interact with people, don't be there primarily as a function or a role, but as the field of conscious Presence. You can only lose something that you have, but you cannot lose something that you are.
Eckhart Tolle
My theory is that we get depressed because we’re not getting what we want, and we’re not getting what we want because we have never been taught to get what we want. Instead, we’ve been taught to be good little boys and girls and good mothers and fathers. If we’re going to be one of those good things, better get used to being depressed. Depression is the reward we get for being “good.” But, if you want to feel better, I’d like you to clarify what you would like people to do to make life more wonderful for you.
Marshall B. Rosenberg
Some changes look negative on the surface but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.
Eckhart Tolle
No matter how educated, talented, rich or cool you believe you are, how you treat people ultimately tells all.
Jay Shetty
Every trauma provides an opportunity for authentic transformation. Trauma amplifies and evokes the expansion and contraction of psyche, body, and soul. It is how we respond to a traumatic event that determines whether trauma will be a cruel and punishing Medusa turning us into stone, or whether it will be a spiritual teacher taking us along vast and uncharted pathways. In the Greek myth, blood from Medusa’s slain body was taken in two vials; one vial had the power to kill, while the other had the power to resurrect. If we let it, trauma has the power to rob our lives of vitality and destroy it. However, we can also use it for powerful self-renewal and transformation. Trauma, resolved, is a blessing from a greater power.
Ann Frederick
Our partners do not belong to us; they are only on loan, with an option to renew—or not. Knowing that we can lose them does not have to undermine commitment; rather, it mandates an active engagement that long-term couples often lose. The realization that our loved ones are forever elusive should jolt us out of complacency, in the most positive sense.
Esther Perel
As long as you keep secrets and suppress information, you are fundamentally at war with yourself…The critical issue is allowing yourself to know what you know. That takes an enormous amount of courage.
People are liberated from suffering not when they experience this or that fleeting pleasure, but rather when they understand the impermanent nature of all their feelings and stop craving them. This is the aim of Buddhist meditation practices. In meditation, you are supposed to closely observe your mind and body, witness the ceaseless arising and passing of all your feelings, and realize how pointless it is to pursue them. When the pursuit stops, the mind becomes very relaxed, clear and satisfied. All kinds of feelings go on arising and passing – joy, anger, boredom, lust – but once you stop craving particular feelings, you can just accept them for what they are. You live in the present moment instead of fantasizing about what might have been.
Yuval Noah Harari
Some birds are not meant to be caged, that's all. Their feathers are too bright, their songs too sweet and wild. So you let them go, or when you open the cage to feed them they somehow fly out past you. And the part of you that knows it was wrong to imprison them in the first place rejoices, but still, the place where you live is that much more drab and empty for their departure.
Shawshank Redemption
I used to think the worst thing in life was to end up all alone. It’s not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people that make you feel all alone.
Robin Williams
Unconscious bias influences our lives in exactly the same manner as that undercurrent that took me out so far that day. When undercurrents aid us … we are invariably unconscious of them. We never credit the undercurrent for carrying us so swiftly; we credit ourselves, our talents, our skills. I was completely sure that it was my swimming ability that was carrying me out so swiftly that day. It did not matter that I knew in my heart that I was a very average swimmer, it did not matter that I knew that I should have worn a life jacket and flippers. On the way out, the idea of humility never occurred to me. It was only at the moment I turned back, when I had to go against the current, that I even realized the current existed.
Shankar Vedantam - Hidden Brain
It is my deep belief that in talking about the past, in understanding the things that have happened to us, we can heal and go forward. Some people believe that it is best to put the past behind you, to never speak about the events that have happened that have hurt or wounded us, and this is their way of coping - but coping is not healing. By confronting the past without shame we are free of its hold on us.
Bell Hooks
Joy is not a constant. It comes to us in moments - often ordinary moments. Sometimes we miss out on the bursts of joy because we're too busy chasing down the extraordinary moments. Other times we're so afraid of the dark we don't dare let ourselves enjoy the light. A joyful life is not a floodlight of joy. That would eventually become unbearable. I believe a joyful life is made up of joyful moments gracefully strung together by trust, gratitude and inspiration.
Brene Brown
I feel very strongly that I am under the influence of things or questions which were left incomplete and unanswered by my parents and grandparents and more distant ancestors. It often seems as if there were an impersonal karma within a family, which is passed on from parents to children. It has always seemed to me that I had to...complete, or perhaps continue, things which previous ages had left unfinished.
Carl Jung
The wound is the place where the light enters you.
Rumi
Grief is a call to open our hearts, to be present with our pain, and to discover the resilience that lies within. The challenge is to find a deeper understanding of the journey we are on. When we learn to embrace grief, we realize we are not alone - we are part of a collective experience that connects us all in our shared humanity. If we do not learn from your losses, we will be ruled by them. When we embrace grief, we take your power back. In embracing grief, we embrace life in all its beauty and complexity.
Devi Brown
Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.
Kahlil Gibran
Extraordinary people survive under the most terrible circumstances and they become more extraordinary because of it.
Robertson Davies
Psychotherapy is often about turning our ghosts into ancestors. By identifying the source of our generational traumas, our ghosts can go from haunting us to becoming simply part of our history.
Dr. Doidge
Atrocities...refuse to be buried...Folk wisdom is filled with ghosts who refuse to rest in their graves until their stories are told.
Judith Herman
There is nothing like returning to a place that remains unchanged to find the ways in which you yourself have altered.
Nelson Mandela
Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
To hold our tongues when everyone is gossiping, to smile without hostility at people and institutions, to compensate for the shortage of love in the world with more love in small, private matters; to be more faithful in our work, to show greater patience, to forgo the cheap revenge obtainable from mockery and criticism: all these are things we can do.
Hesse
Children have never been very good at listening to their elders, but they have never failed to imitate them.
James Baldwin
My dad had limitations. That's what my good-hearted mom always told us. He had limitations, but he meant no harm. It was kind of her to say, but he did do harm.
Nick Dunne
If you are going to go to the trouble of choosing healthy food for your plate, shouldn't you also choose healthy people for your life?
Ramani Durvasula
Unchallenged beliefs are the greatest barrier between who you are and who you could be. Growth happens when you start doing the things you're not qualified to do.
Steven Bartlett
We need leaders not in love with money but in love with justice. Not in love with publicity but in love with humanity.
Martin Luther King Jr.
Success is liking yourself, liking what you do and liking how you do it.
Maya Angelou
The narcissist is like a bucket with a hole in the bottom: No matter how much you put in, you can never fill it up. The phrase “I never feel like I am enough” is the mantra of the person in the narcissistic relationship. That’s because to your narcissistic partner, you are not. No one is. Nothing is.
Ramani Durvasula
You are not here, on this planet, in this lifetime, to tread lightly. You're here to rock boats, to shatter paradigms that paralyze. You are here to be seen, heard, loved, and praised. And if you don't let yourself be seen, then please, tell me, who else will see you? The world needs you as you are, The world needs your expression. The world needs your anger. When you shift, we all shift. Your rebellion, is ours.
Mark Groves
Speak to your children as if they are the wisest, kindest, most beautiful and magical humans on earth, for what they believe is what they will become.
Brooke Hampton
The very cave you are afraid to enter turns out to be the source of what you are looking for.
Joseph Campbell
The distance from your pain, your grief, your unattended wounds, is the distance from your partner.
Stephen Levine
Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become the greatest ally in your life's search for love and wisdom.
Rumi
People may call what happens at midlife 'a crisis,' but it's not. It's an unraveling - a time when you feel a desperate pull to live the life you want to live, not the one you're 'supposed' to live. The unraveling is a time when you are challenged by the universe to let go of who you think you are supposed to be and to embrace who you are.
Brene Brown
Let's take the gauntlet and make goodness attractive in this so-called next millennium. That's the real job we have. I am not talking about Pollyannaish stuff; I am talking about down-to-earth actual goodness. People caring for each other in a myriad of ways, rather than people knocking each other off all the time...What changes the world, the only thing that ever changes the world, is when somebody gets the idea that love can abound and be shared.
Mr. Rogers
All cruelty stems from weakness.
Seneca
When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.
Maya Angelou
By replacing fear of the unknown with curiosity we open ourselves up to an infinite stream of possibility. We can let fear rule our lives or we can become childlike with curiosity, pushing our boundaries, leaping out of our comfort zones, and accepting what life puts before us.
Alan Watts
You can't go back and change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.
C.S. Lewis
I would tell people, especially men, to reach out to other people that they respect and tell them they're doing a great job and that you love them. If you're friends with somebody and they're a good dad, tell them they're a good dad. Or if you think they are a great partner/spouse, tell them. Tell them that they are a great friend and how much you appreciate them.
Ian Charles
We have all been programmed to respond to the human differences between us with fear and loathing and to handle that difference in one of three ways: ignore it, and if that is not possible, copy it if we think it is dominant, or destroy it if we think it is subordinate. But we have no patterns for relating across our human differences as equals. As a result, those differences have been misnamed and misused in the service of separation and confusion.
Audre Lorde
Grant me the grace to reclaim these depths
to uncover this treasure
to liberate these longings
and in being set free in my own spirit
to act for the well-being of the world.
J. Phillip Newell
We're so obsessed with the output and the result that we have completely ignored the value of the journey. There's something joyful and beautiful about slowing down and saying thank you and prioritizing friends. Community is a group of people who agree to grow together.
Simon Sinek
If you don't admire how somebody lives, don't take their ideas seriously either.
Keanu Reeves
We do not receive wisdom, we must discover it for ourselves, after a journey through the wilderness which no one else can make for us, which no one can spare us, for our wisdom is the point of view from which we come at last to regard the world.
Proust